NORWOODGROEP FORUM

25 april "For many of us, being with an addicted partner is easier than facing our own disease and embarking on our own recovery. Should our partners begin to recover, we must either do so as well or find another man with a problem." Voor velen van ons is het gemakkelijker met een verslaaf...

24 april "As you learn to withdraw your obsessive attention from another's behavior, you are left without distraction from your own problems, which may be massive. This is difficult and frightening, but you will not recover from relationship addiction until you find the courage to focus on your...

23 april "Certain kinds of addictions lead people to make career choices that are reflections of their disease, because addicts often try to use their careers as a defense against their addiction. Hiding behind the role of 'expert' can be a way of defending oneself against deep pain and dark se...

22 april "A working definition of addiction can be: In spite of ample evidence that something isn't good for us, we cannot stop our involvement with it." Een goede definitie voor verslaving zou kunnen zijn: iets waar we, ondanks voldoende bewijs dat het niet goed voor ons is, niet mee kunn...

21 april "It isn't what we tell our daughters, but rather how we feel and act, that provides their most formative lessons in what it is to be a woman. Although our own recovery from relationship addiction doesn't guarantee our daughters won't repeat our pattern, it's still the best insurance ag...

20 april "What we must do to protect our own recovery doesn't always appear to others as the 'nice' thing. However, living with diseases of addiction and coaddiction requires that the rules of etiquette be suspended and the guidelines for recovery be followed instead." Wat we moeten doen o...

19 april "If our interactions with men have been dangerous and dramatic and we start to recover, start to detach, our partners may try very hard to get us hooked back into the battle. And the part of us that still wants to win may want to go back and give it one more try, making all the familia...

18 april "Remember, it is anger and fear rather than love that keep most people struggling in unhealthy ways with each other. Since people can divorce each other and still continue these struggles for years, the issue is obviously not as simple as whether to stay or to leave." Onthoud dat ...

17 april "When we feel we have the answer for other people, that they are wrong and we are right, we are being self-righteous , a state that cannot coexist with the humility and surrender necessary for our recovery. Being self-righteous, believing that we know exactly what the truth is regardin...

16 april

"Changing requires not a prodigious, dramatic, temporary assault on the problem, but a daily surrender and commitment."

Verandering vereist niet een wonderbaarlijke, dramatische, tijdelijke aanval op het probleem, maar een proces van dagelijkse overgave en toewijding.

15 april "If you truly want to recover from loving too much, you must take responsibility for the fact that you chose this partner and realize that there are lessons for you to learn in this relationship. The first lesson is how to let go of the determination to change another person. The drivi...

14 april "Our own recovery must always be our first priority if we want to be of help. In order to give something, we have to have it ourselves." Ons eigen herstel moet altijd onze eerste prioriteit zijn als we tot hulp willen zijn voor een ander. Om iets te kunnen geven, moeten we het eer...

13 april "What we have known in our family of origin will always be most comfortable to us, no matter how unhealthy that family of origin was . It naturally follows that we choose in adult relationships that with which we are already familiar. After all, the word 'familiar' is derived from the ...

Sorry, gisteren vergeten te plaatsen. 11 april "When we have been traumatized in any way, there is always the (usually unconscious) drive to re-create the traumatic situation and this time to prevail, to gain ascendancy over what has defeated us before. The greater the trauma we have suffered, ...

10 april

"We are here to grow and to learn and to wake up."

We zijn hier om te groeien en om te leren en om te ontwaken.