NORWOODGROEP FORUM

​​20 mei "It is a lack of respect for another's right to be who he is that allows us to try to help him manage his life, even when he appears to invite us to do so . When a man invites you to help him control any aspect of his life, he is setting a trap for you. His problem has just become your...

19 mei "If someone shocks or hurts you once, he will most likely do it again, except that you will have less right to be shocked or hurt because now you already know he has the capacity for that kind of behavior. Since he's an adult, we'll assume he acted as he did, not because he didn't know b...

18 mei "Sobriety in relationships, while very real, is also very subtle and cannot be measured except by the eventual degree of serenity we achieve in our lives." 'Nuchter' zijn bij relatieverslaving is, ook al is daar echt sprake van, heel subtiel en niet te meten, en alleen te zien aan d...

17 mei "When we turn to a drug, a behavior, or another person to take care of an uncomfortable feeling, we run the risk of developing an unhealthy dependency. If a man has come to represent relief from feelings of anxiety and abandonment, we can become desperately dependent on him. He is our 'f...

16 mei "Do you begin a relationship by assuming the role of the all-giving, all-accepting, all-nurturing parent to his naughty, needy child? We who love too much offer an unspoken deal to the men who strike us as needy: I'll take care of you first, and then you'll take care of me." Begin j...

15 mei

"Nothing works better than prayer as long as we're asking for God's will and not our own."

Niets werkt beter dan bidden, zolang we vragen om Gods wil en niet wat we zelf willen.

14 mei

"Not practicing an addiction requires more than just telling yourself to change."

Een verslaving niet praktiseren vraagt meer van je dan alleen tegen jezelf zeggen dat je moet veranderen.

13 mei "Our attempts to matter to this man, to become as necessary to his well-being as he is to ours, can turn us into clinging, smothering, manipulative, and even self-abasing women. When we love too much, we are usually despised for all our efforts: our partner despises us, and we despise ou...

12 mei "Some men are like broccoli: not too exciting but wholesome and good for us; and some men are like chocolate cake: incredibly appealing but, for those of us who are addictive, definitely very dangerous. If we are relationship addicts, we need to learn to relate sanely and avoid those peo...

11 mei "Agreeing to have contact with a man who has been our 'drug' may have the same effect that taking a drink would have on a sober alcoholic. Years of recovery may be wiped out, and the obsession off and running stronger than ever." Ermee instemmen contact te hebben met een man die onz...

10 mei "Relationship addiction, like drug abuse or alcoholism, is a progressive disease. That is, the time period between launching an addictive relationship and finding life completely unmanageable speeds up dramatically as the years go by." Relatieverslaving is, net als drugsverslaving e...

9 mei "We may have one addiction that covers up another, such as when an addiction to exercise helps disguise the effects of a compulsion to eat." We kunnen een verslaving hebben die een andere verslaving verhult, zoals de verslaving aan lichaamsbeweging helpt om de gevolgen van een eetver...

8 mei

"There is a natural human tendency toward denial. We often require various degrees of catastrophe to break through it."

Er is een natuurlijke menselijke neiging om dingen te ontkennen. We hebben vaak verschillende gradaties van catastrofes nodig om daar doorheen te breken.

7 mei "We are blessed when life makes it impossible for us to go on as before, when we must change our behavior. But, of course, it doesn't feel like a blessing at the time." We zijn gezegend als het leven het ons onmogelijk maakt om door te gaan zoals we tot dan toe deden, als we onze man...

6 mei

"Compulsive eating is commonly present in women who have been sexually abused."

Dwangmatig eten komt veel voor bij vrouwen die seksueel misbruikt zijn.