NORWOODGROEP FORUM

15 april "If you truly want to recover from loving too much, you must take responsibility for the fact that you chose this partner and realize that there are lessons for you to learn in this relationship. The first lesson is how to let go of the determination to change another person. The drivi...

14 april "Our own recovery must always be our first priority if we want to be of help. In order to give something, we have to have it ourselves." Ons eigen herstel moet altijd onze eerste prioriteit zijn als we tot hulp willen zijn voor een ander. Om iets te kunnen geven, moeten we het eer...

13 april "What we have known in our family of origin will always be most comfortable to us, no matter how unhealthy that family of origin was . It naturally follows that we choose in adult relationships that with which we are already familiar. After all, the word 'familiar' is derived from the ...

Sorry, gisteren vergeten te plaatsen. 11 april "When we have been traumatized in any way, there is always the (usually unconscious) drive to re-create the traumatic situation and this time to prevail, to gain ascendancy over what has defeated us before. The greater the trauma we have suffered, ...

10 april

"We are here to grow and to learn and to wake up."

We zijn hier om te groeien en om te leren en om te ontwaken.

9 april "Because recovery from relationship addiction requires such rigorous effort and yet is so difficult to measure effectively, it is far more common for relationship addicts to claim recovery than actually to achieve it. It is so tempting to see ourselves as fully recovered when, in fact, ...

8 april "When we pursue a man who cannot love us, we need to recognize there is a predatory element in the sexual chase, a desire to subjugate another person through one's own desirability." Wanneer we een man najagen die niet van ons kan houden, moeten we erkennen dat er een roofzuchtig e...

7 april "Sometimes people need to be apart. But if you separate without learning the lesson that the relationship is trying to teach you, then you'll have to face it again in the next relationship, and again in the one after that. When you can accept this man exactly as he is, without anger or ...

6 april "Trying to recover from relationship addiction (or any other addiction) without faith is like walking up a steep hill backward in high heels." Proberen te herstellen van relatieverslaving (of welke andere verslaving ook) zonder geloof is als achteruit een steile heuvel oplopen op h...

5 april

"We have the power to give ourselves love and caring: it isn't necessary to wait, empty, until a man comes along to supply these."

We hebben de macht om onszelf liefde en zorg te geven; het is niet nodig te wachten, leeg, totdat een man langskomt die aan die behoeften zal voldoen.

4 april "If you want, too badly, to save people you love from the suffering attendant to their addictive behavior, think about this question: Who could have saved me? There were probably lots of people who tried: girlfriends, your mother, a sister or brother, maybe even your children… and quite...

3 april

"The more lovingly and generously we treat ourselves, the less likely we are to allow anyone else to treat us badly."

Hoe liefdevoller en ruimhartiger we met onszelf omgaan, hoe minder waarschijnlijk het wordt dat we ons door iemand anders slecht laten behandelen.

2 april "Because Nature seems to abhor a vacuum as much in the areas of human behavior and emotions as in physics, we cannot simply stop loving too much without substituting another (hopefully more positive) behavior to take its place." Omdat De Natuur op het gebied van menselijk gedrag en...

1 april "We need to remember that life on this Earth is a classroom, and that as one advances through school, the tasks become more complicated. Every grade in this school of life is necessary to our ultimate development. Each is challenging when we are at that level, but as soon as we have mas...

31 maart "As we move toward recovery from loving too much, no step we take is really small, because each one changes the direction of our lives." Als we bezig zijn met het herstelproces van te zeer liefhebben, is geen enkele stap die we doen echt klein, omdat iedere stap de richting van on...